Why My Husband Crossdresses
A Wife’s Raw Story of Secrets, Shock, and Survival
If you, like me, discovered that your husband or partner crossdresses, you’re probably feeling the same things I did: shock, anger, confusion, betrayal — and a deep, lonely silence you don’t know how to break.
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​I know that sick feeling in your stomach.
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I know the sleepless nights.
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I know the moment when you stare at him and think: Who are you really?
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That’s why I wrote this book. Because wives deserve the truth, not sugar-coating.
Who This Book Is For
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Have just found lingerie hidden in a drawer and feel their worlds collapse.
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Are tired of reading clichés online that don’t touch the real pain.
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Feel betrayed, invisible, or angry at the secrecy.
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Want to understand why men crossdress without being told to “just accept it.”
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Need to know they are not alone.
Inside the Book
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My raw story — the discovery, the heartbreak, the bitter humour I clung to, and ultimately, the survival that shaped me.
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A search for the real truth — not just guesses or clichés, but a deeper inquiry into why men crossdress through neurological, psychoanalytical, psychological, and sociological lenses.
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Neurological insights into the brain’s wiring, pleasure pathways, and the hidden triggers that may drive crossdressing urges.
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Psychoanalytical reflections on identity, repression, desire, and how childhood and unconscious forces shape adult behaviour.
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Psychological perspectives on secrecy, shame, intimacy, and the way trust fractures inside a marriage.
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Sociological questions about gender, society’s rules, loneliness, and how women and men perform roles in silence.
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Mary’s opinions woven through it all — my anger, my doubts, my questions, and my stubborn demand for the real answer, not the polite ones.
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The loneliness of wives like me — and the surprising loneliness that lives inside the men who hide.
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Why, in the end, time — not just theories or explanations — is often the only thing that begins to shift the pain into something like understanding.
Testimonials
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Finally — a book that tells the truth. Mary puts into words what so many wives feel but never dare to say.” — Early Reader
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“Reading Mary’s story felt like talking to my best friend in the middle of the night. Honest, raw, and strangely comforting.” — Wife, Anonymous
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“A rare blend of story and science. Mary isn’t afraid to disagree with the experts — and that’s what makes her voice so powerful.” — Reader Review
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“For the first time, I felt both understood and informed. This book gave me clarity when nothing else did. A lot I needed to heard but did not want to.”
— Eileen from London
